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1 Corinthians 13
1 If I could speak in any language in heaven or on earth[a] but didn't love others, I would only be making meaningless noise like a loud gong or a clanging cymbal. 2If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I knew all the mysteries of the future and knew everything about everything, but didn't love others, what good would I be? And if I had the gift of faith so that I could speak to a mountain and make it move, without love I would be no good to anybody. 3If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it;[b] but if I didn't love others, I would be of no value whatsoever.
4Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged. 6It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
8Love will last forever, but prophecy and speaking in unknown languages[c] and special knowledge will all disappear. 9Now we know only a little, and even the gift of prophecy reveals little! 10But when the end comes, these special gifts will all disappear.
11It's like this: When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child does. But when I grew up, I put away childish things. 12Now we see things imperfectly as in a poor mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity.[d] All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God knows me now.
13There are three things that will endure--faith, hope, and love--and the greatest of these is love.
(New Living Translation)
A particular phrase in an old favourite book I was reading yesterday caught my eye (and yes its by Montgomery, again :) she's wonderful in many ways..)
There's a difference between loving and falling in love (Pat of Silver Bush)
Don't get it?
Loving is the type of love described by Paul up there in that passage from 1 Corinthians. True, forever, love, encompassing filial and brotherly and friendly and all that type of love.
Falling in love or better yet, falling OUT of love, is ...well, sometimes we call it infatuation. But perhaps its a little deeper than that. Because we associate infatuation with 'crushes', that temporary infatuation with movie stars, etc....its more idolatry than anything else, and with it there's a sense of superficial-ness. Falling in love, I think, feels like love. It's a lot stronger....perhaps its that surge of affection or emotion for something or someone that you get at times. And you think, perhaps, its even quite rational. You could throw yourself completely in to this type of love and feel completely justified.
The fun thing about falling IN love, is it seems you can just as easily fall OUT of love.
And in books its kinda fun. In...and Out OOOOPS! and then again. Thing is they don't always overemphasize the feelings of the other party. muhahahhahahaa.
So let's see---we're called by God to love EVERYBODY as ourselves.
So what happens when we fall IN love with a body (that you know, we 'love as ourselves'). Is it alright to go into that....knowing that when we fall OUT of love....oops! its all over and at least one is kinda left hanging?
Love does not demand its own way...........7Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
Too bad......i think falling in love would be fun......altho scary. hehehe.
July 19 2005, 21:36:45 UTC 6 years ago
falling in love is definately fun! lots of fun :) emotional bliss in its truest sense -- optimal for sentimental / emotional lil poets / writers since there is such glamour, such floral valor and hope at the beginning of each day the air is quite simply 'bathed in romance' ( a really pretty image i've caught on to from Robertson Davies! --- really nice :) )
despite all of that the danger though..
is 'do we 'fall in love' with 'falling in love' or with that particular someone'
do we love the act / emotional thrill and chivlary or the person we profess to love?
as for infatuation -- i've come to a greater appreciation for it.. sure it showers your vision strawberry-kiwi, and pineapple mango... and its true that not long after you've first seen it and either bitten into it or held off that mouth watery urge is gone... but i don't think it is quite as 'evil' as we... well maybe i've always painted it to be ... i mean managed correctly --- it is just the whiff of romance to get you going on that elegant love poem, it is just that scent of flowers that goes otu of your way... it paints the world in prettier light... and whether we abuse that and go and make a fool of ourselves... or master it, controlling it to our whims of creation -- theres our own consequences we have to deal with.
afterall -- infatuation is basically romance, often times you see a marriage is dry and the couple merely exists as two functional parties... the 'marraige is dead' they might say... and why? theres no romance, everything is ritual, routine and boring. infatuation -- romance -- novelty in its truest sense is what drievs to be interesting :)
as to the question --
i think its alright to fall 'in love' with people -- in that state of passive infatuation -- however unless one is decided on actively pursueing that infatuation -- making that romance a reality and furthermore life... would simply be pursueing a melodram... and once the curtains close -- it just gives room to an empty theatre and a broken heart.. and intensive lonliness...
from experience the depression and lonliness after such a break is utterly horrendous... course at the time i was a emotional lil teen with innocent, and naive ideology --- that though in all theory would work forgot to take into account reality... and with all hopes and eyes set on the future it came to a crash sputter of delusionment... luckily when reality had already struck... God pulled me otu of that... leaving me relatievly unscathed..
not to mention... each person one has a 'fling with' results in a part of that person lost to the other forever... like a flower having a petal pulled from its beauty.
so overall -- i think sure fall in love be a romantic, it lights life up pretty darn sweet :), tho don't act on it unless you're set and get to know the person enough that youc an say yah i'd love to spend the rest of my life with him...
as i look back -- i think that though i fell into the darkest of valleys, those few years of depressive 'insanity' spared me years and years of greif later on. so cheers to that :)
hehes --well, hope you feel two cents richer :p